Validation of Feelings

There seems to be a common thread that widows speak to each other. 
You aren't the only one who ever wanted to say:

Sometimes I just want to be alone.

I resent seeing happy couples. Why do they get to spend their lives together and we don’t?

It bothers me when people tell me how strong or brave I am. 
    I’m just trying to make it through each day, not prove anything!

I hate when people tell me I’m young and pretty and I’ll find someone else.

I feel uncomfortable going out with other couples. There’s always an odd number and I must return home alone.

I don't want people to assume I'm divorced - we had a wonderful marriage!

It’s been over a year, and people expect that I should just be over it already, but I’m not.

I wonder sometimes if I will ever feel like me again.

I just want my old life back.

Why do people tell me that if I get remarried I'll will be happy again? That won't erase the pain.

I have been told to "stop dwelling" on his death and move on!

People have said to me that there is no way they could handle what I am handling.
    I say to them......yes you could, you have no other choice!

The thing I hate the most is the way people look at me when they see me on the street. 
    They get this look of pity & don't know what to say. Their look just bums me out.

The question is... Why not just say something? 
You have the right to speak your mind & feelings... you are healing!
At the same time, you are teaching them "grief etiquette" for speaking to grievers! 

Peace I leave you as you search for the new path God has prepared for you!
Your life has changed but God has not. He is silently wiping the tears away, he has given to you to help you cleanse your soul's hurt!  Seek him and you will find peace!